I asked my daughter Kate to tell me her favorite season.
She said, “all of them.”
Forgotten by Adults
For busy grownups, that’s hard to fathom. Most of the time, we grouse perfunctorily about “Old Man Winter.” Sometimes, when the snow falls early and often, or when 50-mile-per-hour winds whip the flakes into a whiteout that shuts down highways, we curse him.
We didn’t once. Remember?
Long before we cursed the winter, we reveled in it — as much as we still find ways to revel in spring, summer, and fall. We weren’t so practical then, so worn down by scraping and shoveling or so worried about the roads. We didn’t have anywhere to be that couldn’t wait. Cold and snow weren’t a nuisance. They simply were winter.
Now we permit ourselves just one day to revel in the white: Christmas. Five inches of snow fell this year on Christmas Eve. No one complained that night. Quite the opposite. It was the whitest Christmas I can remember, and it was glorious.
Remembered by Poets
While we long for the growth of spring, practically worship the warmth of summer, and celebrate the colors of fall, we’re fairly cold to winter’s joys. Fortunately, some of our greatest books sing winter’s songs in harmony with our kids. The writers of these books have remembered what our children haven’t yet forgot.
As one of the characters in Shakespeare’s Love’s Labour’s Lost says:
At Christmas I no more desire a rose
Than wish a snow in May’s new-fangled mirth;
But like of each thing that in season grows.
“To every thing there is a season.” Shakespeare remembered. Similarly, one of Japan’s greatest haiku masters, Matsuo Basho, pined for a proper winter in 1666:
a winter shower
the pine tree is unhappy and
waiting for snow
Is there a more beautiful winter sight than evergreen branches drooping under snow’s white weight? Is anything more out of place than rain in winter? Basho remembered.
Embraced Again by Learners
I asked my daughter what she likes best about winter. She said, “the snow.”
I asked her what she likes best about the snow. She said, “you can play in it.”
Don’t you get cold? “Not when I am playing.”
Old Man Winter? No, it’s Young Girl Winter — inviting us to play in the snow again.
Jan 22, 2011 @ 11:17:59
Great lessons from a teacher wise beyond her years.
Thanks for the lesson. It’s one I need to remember (as I get older, and feel less tolerant of the cold). I guess I need to play some more ;-)
S-
Jan 22, 2011 @ 15:29:54
Sometimes we curse old man winter, for all the detriments of snow and cold, but, then Young Girl Winter comes along carting with her the joys of the season. She doesn’t see the detriments that old man winter shovels at his gloomy followers, instead she sees fun and play, all the merriment of an optimist. May God bless Young Girl Winter.
Jan 22, 2011 @ 22:34:05
Actually, as I have gotten older, and retired, I revel again in the joys of winter. Now that I don’t have to get up early and worry about getting to work on the snowy, slippery roads, I can enjoy winter again. I can go out and walk or drive when I want to, not because I have to.
And of course watching the grandchildren…..
Jan 23, 2011 @ 05:52:12
I can remember as a child waking up early to turn on the radio, hoping that they would announce the day as a snow day (too much snow for the buses to get through – hence no school that day) and then of course spending the day playing in the white stuff.
Jan 23, 2011 @ 14:20:52
Thanks for helping us not to wish our lives away just because we don’t like the season we’re in.
My take on winter is that it brings us the coziest indoor experience of the year. A crackling fire is never so nice as in winter. Nor is a buzzing expresso joint with it’s enchanting aromas and sheltering warmth. A comfy chair with a good book is best when snow is on the ground, or drippy grey skies arch over.
I’d not trade anything for winter.
Jan 24, 2011 @ 09:20:05
Another exuberance of childhood. Why can’t we learn from children? We have really lost the best part of being alive. Have you ever looked at a baby learning to say words? They use all their mouth muscles; there is expression when a kindergartener speaks. We shush children when they are loud with excitement. Kids are running, not walking, to where they are going. And we have squelched all of that, so that they can be fit to participate in society.
Jan 25, 2011 @ 15:08:58
On the same day as your winter post, my yoga teacher read this quote to contemplate during our lesson:
“Live each season as it passes; breathe the air, drink the drink, taste the fruit, and resign yourself to the influences of each.”
–Henry David Thoreau
US Transcendentalist author (1817-1862)
And from my dictionary…
Resign= give over without resistance = accept as inevitable
Literally to “unsign,” “unseal,” “cancel” — that is, to stop one thing and fall under the spell of the now thing.
Jan 28, 2011 @ 21:05:36
What lovely thoughts! Thanks for reminding us to enjoy the now. And thank you, Kate, for bringing back my childhood joys.